I would like to thank Tami Patzer for such a rich conversation! Without any further ado, here is Part 2 of the interview from Business Innovator’s Network Radio:
Tami: Could you describe some ways—it’s interesting—I’ve been listening to you, and you know how people say, keep a journal, and write down what they’re grateful for. Some people keep a diary of different things, other people write about things in their life. When you’re talking about this self reflection and self-analysis, do you have any examples of ways that people could put this into action and how often should they be doing this? Because I know sometimes, you know, especially when it comes to writing, I personally don’t want to do that because it’s almost like I’m afraid of what I might find out.
Tami: So do you have any suggestions for our listeners about, well, how do we start on this journey, especially if if we’re new to it?
Krista: Sure. Yes. Keeping a journal is actually a great way to begin to self reflect, to write about what happened today. You can start there, and ask yourself: Where was I internally today? What worked for me and what didn’t work for me today? And you know, there’s another thing – another way you can do this if you’re not a writer, or that style of self reflection doesn’t appeal. You can, every night before bed, you can just snuggle in and pull your covers up and close your eyes and be in the quiet stillness of the dark and you know, go back to about age 18-20, and just watch your life like it’s a movie. Just watch.
What were the major transitions in your life and who were the people there?
Who were your teachers and guides?
Who were your friends at that time?
What were people saying and doing, and what was it that instigated whatever the decision was that you made – and was it a good decision? Or did it take you down a road that created more challenge and difficulty?
What happened? What actually happened to get you from one place in your life to the next place in your life?
You can take maybe 15 minutes or so – it doesn’t have to be a big, long, drawn out thing. The important thing is to just get started. 15 minutes to just dip your big toe in the water. Each night you can do just do a little bit. Let your awareness flow over the landscape of your life. Where did you start, and how did I get here?
Tami: That’s really interesting. And why the age that you said, why would you want to start it at about that age of looking at it? Why not later or earlier?
Krista: Well, you could start at the very beginning of your life and look at your early family life, your upbringing, your brothers and sisters, your family’s circumstances. Everything. After a while it’s like everything becomes grist for the mill. But as a starting point, especially if you’re new to it, the age of 18 is typically when we leave home. We go to college or maybe we get a job and move away from home for the first time – and it’s right around that age that we make major decisions that will impact the rest of our life. So it’s a really good time to look at what was happening then – and to start there and kind of just move forward in the inner movie and witness your life.
I want to just say one more thing about why the age of 18. Before that, we’re in our family of origin. And we’ve been guided by our parents or caregivers through our childhood – but it’s at the age of 18 or 20 that we begin to make our own decisions for our own life. And so start engaging from the time that you became independent from your family of origin. What kinds of decisions did you make? Over time, we begin to go through our lives with a finer and finer tooth comb, you know, we get more and more current with ourselves so that after some time, you may be just looking at the last 24 to 48 hours, and asking yourself how productive were you able to be? What are the decisions that I made just in the last day and how are they moving me forward or moving me back.
There’s something else here about the depth of the process of looking at ourselves and having the courage to more and more look into those dark corridors where we kinda don’t really want to look. Those are the places we might make an excuse or we might give ourselves permission to lie or manipulate. Those places where we justify our poor behavior.
When we hit those slippery spots where we really want to just kind of zoom right over the situation – those are really incredible doorways in to see what the full truth is, without blaming anyone else, and without blaming the circumstances or anything external. It is an incredible opportunity for spiritual growth.
When we have the courage to just look in a very simple way at ourselves, it’s a very rich investigation. All of a sudden, it’s like when I recognize, “oh, I made an excuse!” Because I’ve been doing this self analysis each day, all of a sudden it’s like little neon light that goes off in my mind. And then like things begin to resonate with each other. Like, “Oh boy, I did it there too… And I did it there too. And I did it there too.” And I begin to be able to link up and see the pattern that I’ve been engaging in. And usually there are beliefs that go with it. Maybe there’s a whole world view that goes with it and it all becomes this very full picture and we begin to know ourselves better.
We begin to know who we really are instead of who we think we are.
And when we know who we really are, we move out of uncertainty and gray zones into a very black and white understanding that if I do this, it’s going to have this result, and do I want that result or not? What is the outcome and is it going to be useful? Is it going to be helpful to myself and to others? And so when we join with that deep self investigation, we’re aligning ourselves more and more deeply with the truth. We become able to receive more – and become a bigger container for more life force and more vitality and more and deeper connection to our spirit and soul.
Tami: That’s really phenomenonal. So as you’re talking, you’re talking about basically the more you reflect and look inside yourself, the more you understand who you are, and then it also connects you to more life force. And when you’re talking about life force, are you talking about the creator force, the God of your understanding? Nature? What is your definition of life force?
Krista: Yeah, it’s a big question. It’s like what we were talking about at the beginning of the recording. Life Force, yes, it is all of those things. It is more deeply connecting with the God of our own understanding, that which created us, and our own spirit and soul. And it is an incredible, incredible wonder to be able to receive more life force energy, more Light as a result of opening up those darkened corners. And the more we are able to fill with that Light, the more vitality we have, the more our awareness and our consciousness is able to rise and really the happier our lives become. It is such a powerful journey of spiritual growth and spiritual healing.
Tami: That’s really phenomenal. So everyone, if I were you, I would take advantage of reaching out to Krista and she can tell you more about how she can help you get more connected to life force and you can go check out her website where you’ll find all kinds of information and answers about the science she’s been involved with related to this, and of course, different reviews and testimonials about her. So Krista, thank you so much. I really enjoyed talking about your perspectives on self-reflection and self-analysis. It’s a very interesting topic and it makes you really think, “Whoa, I better start looking inside!”